It’s been about two months since I quit my full-time job in order to pursue my dream of being my own boss. As most of you can tell from March’s insane income, things are going quite well. I’ve written about how I have a plan to keep moving forward and how I have framed all of this with the mindset that online income is highly variable.
I’m literally taking it week by week, but I haven’t really mentioned the other side of freelancing; the side that causes me to freak out a bit any time I check my email and find my inbox to be empty.
The Dark Side of Freelancing
While it sounds amazing to be your own boss on the surface, there’s a dark side to all the new-found freedom that comes along with being a freelancer. Of course you understand that if you’re not working, you’re not making any money. What might be a little harder to understand is how it actually feels to strike out on your own. Here’s a bit of what a typical week feels like in terms of the emotions and stressors that are packaged with the great opportunity to be the boss:
Monday morning (checking emails after unplugging on Sunday): Yes! Look at all these emails! Time to respond to that, time to negotiate this, make a note to get to work on project A, send off final approval for project B. Etc, etc, etc. Wow, my to-do list is huge!
Monday evening (after checking email about 30-50 times throughout the day): Damn, why don’t I have any emails about work in here? Great, another email from Pinterest to remind me that I have no clue what I’m doing when it comes to using that site. Refresh. Ugh…nothing still?
Tuesday morning: Yay, the UK emails came through! Rinse & repeat Monday morning’s routine.
Wednesday afternoon (despite having a busy AM): Sheesh! It’s sure quiet here today. Check budget. Hmm…I need to make X dollars if I want to fulfill that goal. Time to reach out to some people in hopes of drumming up work. What if I don’t make any money this month? What if I can’t pay my bills? Ahhh…I’m spinning! Time for a run to clear my head. Come home to an empty inbox and proceed to freak out all over again.
Thursday: CRAZY day. Close enough deals to make an extra $2,000 this month. Life is good. Why was I worried yesterday?
Friday: TGIF! Yesterday was awesome. Now it’s time for the weekend. Things will continue to pick up next week…or will they?
Freelance Work is Up, Down, All Around
What I’m trying to illustrate here (perhaps not so eloquently) is that freelance work is up,down and all around. No day is the same, which is why I love it so much. Unfortunately, no day being the same can also mean insane amounts of wondering and questioning–even when things are going well.
If you’re considering becoming a freelancer or striking out on your own in some way, you need to have a solid foundation to ensure you’re able to withstand the roller coaster ride that even a typical week entails. This means taking care of both yourself and your business.
How to Handle the Ups and Downs of Freelancing
You need to have a plan–one that’s in place far before you pull the trigger on your decision to become your own boss. Your plan should include aspects of self-care, networking, professional development and much more. Here are some tips for how to manage the ups and downs of freelancing in the best possible way…
Take Care of Yourself
First and foremost, if you’re not taking care of yourself, you won’t ever reach your full potential. You need to be exercising, eating well and getting enough sleep. Doing so will mean you’re better equipped to deal with all of the challenges headed your way. I know that when I’m not sleeping or not exercising, it’s far too easy to “get in my own head” about what’s happening with work. Practicing consistent self care helps you keep more of an even keel when you find yourself on that roller coaster of confidence and second-guessing your efforts.
You also need to ensure you’re maintaining your social connections, especially if you’re doing most of your work online. Isolation might be a by-product of the first few months of striking out on your own as you adjust to new schedules and new demands, but it’s not a sustainable way to enjoy your life. Make sure to schedule time with your family, friends and acquaintances. Sometimes all it takes is a quick run or dinner with a friend to recharge your batteries and refocus your efforts but don’t discount taking a vacation, too!
Take Care of Your Budget
My budget is the largest source of stress for me as a freelancer. Months ago when I was contemplating making the jump, I started budgeting for what I anticipated my income would be. I also paid off almost $16,000 of my student loans to free up more of my monthly cash flow, and I pushed myself to save as much as possible so I’d have a nice e-fund to smooth the road should it become rocky.
Right now, I’m concentrating my efforts on aggressive annual goals that will help me continue to build a strong financial foundation. While I’m still traveling and living my life, I’ve cut back on dining out and other frivolous spending in an effort to trim my expenses as much as possible. I also have set my monthly budget sheets for the remainder of the year based on the guaranteed income I will receive.
This way, if I get too freaked out on a particular day, I can easily open Excel and reassure myself that even if nothing “extra” comes in, all of my bills, my retirement, and my long-term savings are covered. Having a plan for the future months puts me at ease and helps me sleep at night!
Mind Your Network
I’ll write some future posts providing more details, but I’m fortunate in that most of my work and projects have been secured through people I’m working with or those who I’ve worked with in the past. I’ve cultivated a small yet strong network of bloggers, freelancers and website owners over the past two years, and I’ve been able to tap that network to market and communicate about my services.
If you don’t have a strong network and you’re planning to strike out on your own, make some changes and hold off on taking the leap until your network is in place.
Quality Over Quantity
I pride myself on my ability to deliver high-quality work on-time and at (or under) the budgets my clients set. I’ve been told that I’m true to my word and dependable and those are honestly some of the best compliments I could wish for as a freelancer. I know my limits, and I’m careful to openly communicate with each person about any scheduling conflicts or surprises that might pop up along the way.
Sure, I’ve made some mistakes and I’ve done some bone-headed things (how about getting distracted on Facebook one day and forgetting to send someone the link for their post? Oy!), but I am prompt with an honest explanation and I work hard to not repeat the same mistakes.
Find what works for you and stick with it–your clients will appreciate a person who deliver high quality work a day or two slower than someone who pumps out horrendous articles or posts without a second thought.
What advice do you have for freelancers?
Jen Smialek
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My best advice is to enjoy the empty inbox moments because you will soon reach a point where you can only dream about them! I would give anything to see inbox zero again – I have so much stuff piled up I may never be able to respond to all of it.
I'm so glad freelancing is going well for you! I hope you'll keep writing about it because it's always interesting to see if the process is similar for other people.
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Thanks, Andrea! I honestly hope to be at the level you are–it's all very inspiring to see how far you've come with growing a successful business.
It's going so well and I truly love it! I'll definitely continue to write more about it.
I get soo many emails about people wanting to do sponsored posts and for ad placements… If that wasn't enough I also get some hate mail.
I'll take the empty mailbox anytime LOL
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You can forward those emails to me…hahahaha
But I am sorry you get hate mail–that's never acceptable. Hope you just delete!
LOVE this post! This is something that I'm afraid of for when I eventually strike out on my own. I'm working on building up my savings and everything else so that we can be as prepared as possible.
You're doing it the right way, Michelle–you won't have that much to worry about
My advice for freelancers…find a favorite drink. Seriously though, I can totally relate. Those quiet days absolutely suck but are good to have (sparingly of course ) if you're crazy busy. I could not agree more with taking care of yourself because if you're not then it'll reflect in your work. So glad to hear it's going well for you, basically doing it myself I am always exited to see others doing so well.
Haha..Yes….blue cheese-stuffed olive dirty martini, please!
There really aren't too many days when it's crickets, but I exaggerated just enough so people truly understand that it's definitely wrought with ups and downs. Gotta have a solid foundation and stay strong to make a successful go of it!
Freelancers are independent business people and there will be swings in income. You have to sock away cash when times are good for the other times. When things are slow, you should market yourself more.
Absolutely! Just wanted to offer the alternate perspective so people don't think it's all sunshine and roses
That sounds like a major whirlwind! I would like to start getting some freelancing in, but stories like these make me second guess whether I could handle it! Also, I have no idea yet what kind of services I could provide yet.
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You can get there just spend a good amount of time planning every aspect you can think of before venturing out on your own. It's a wild ride but a hell of a good one
Ha, I can totally relate! I'm freelancing to build up savings for our impending RTW trip (and freelancing will be my only source of income on the road.) But because I'm still working my day job, I also kind of dread checking my inbox because I just don't want to LOOK at what might have come in because it can get overwhelming.
Sounds like freelancing is going absolutely GANGBUSTERS for you. Amazing!
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Holy piss is a RTW trip a dream of mine…love this!! I definitely have more days when it's just pure craziness to keep up, but I don't want anyone thinking there's an endless supply of opportunities simply materializing…you have to work hard for them but then they roll in as long as you continue to work hard!
So far, so very good No complaints here!
This is a great list! My fiance runs his own business and he gets stressed about all of the same stuff as you, he'll be glad to know he's not alone in this aspect!
Thanks, Jordann! Yes, definitely not alone–it's a constant learning experience but I love it.
Love it – makes the roller coaster of income that we posted about seem like a smooth ride by comparison to your daily highs and lows.
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Haha…so true! Overall, I'm still extremely happy but I wanted to make sure I highlight all aspects of this freelancing stuff in case others are contemplating making a switch in their own lives.
I freelance on the side so it's always in addition to my regular income. However, I do know what you mean. When I don't get any jobs for a few days, I wonder if I will ever get any more. Luckily, I always do!
Good to know I'm not alone! And yes, so far something always comes through–it's just an adjustment period for me now I think.
Welcome to the world of feast or famine! Yes the best advice I could give a future freelancer is to live like a freelancer for a year while you are still working full time. Live on half your income..pay yourself sporadically. It's a very up and down way of life…something to be quite honest I'm still not 100% comfortable with yet…and may never be.
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That's great advice! I'm so happy I did the "fake quit" thing before officially moving on because then I had a better idea of what I was getting myself into. So far, so good!
I recently learned that taking care of yourself is THE most important thing. I'm so much less stressed now that I'm eating properly, taking breaks, eating right and sleeping well. Self care should definitely be at the top of the list for freelancers.
It's so true! This absolutely cannot be discounted–if you're not taking care of yourself, you're most likely headed for disaster; it's just a matter of time before you realize of what magnitude!
I think freelancing would be amazing, but also incredibly scary. I'd have to have a pretty good emergency fund set up or I'd be a nervous wreck all the time.
It's awesome and crazy all at the same time. I love it because I love a good challenge and variety but you're correct–couldn't do this without having my e-fund in tact!
I admire people who can do it. I don't know that I could handle the emotional stresses!! I think you'll be just fine though
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Thank you, Catherine! I appreciate the vote of confidence. Roller coaster ride be damned!
I don't know if I'd be able to sleep on those slow days. I guess having a plan in place and back up funding would put you at ease. I'm glad everything is going well for you.
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Seems stressful and exciting all at once. I'd like to break into the freelancing world, but I suppose it takes time. Keep up the great work!
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You're doing great! Keep it up!